Know you are not alone in your grief.
I would like to ask you three question.
When you speak about a situation with health challenges…
what are the words you choose to describe the challenge?
Do you feel or sense changes how your body is reacting to the words you express?
Do you look for a diversion?
These question help to formulate a direction of acceptance of grief. I know full well the impact on a person’s psychological and physical wellbeing. I struggled with my demons of loss and guilt during my wife’s treatment of breast cancer and jumped into the rabbit hole with both feet when she died in 2004.
I learned valuable lessons over the next 4 years. Yes, it took me a long time. Everyone emotionally run over by breast cancer’s insidious nature can move forward over time. A myth about the word (time)…Time doesn’t heal all wounds.” Time may be on our side but the relevance to healing and finding peace is disconnected.
It is a roller coaster ride of emotional disquiet. One day I am fine, a manageable level of emotion, the next, all fire and brimstone.
The point is; you reach a juncture of choice. Hopefully, one where you turn your back on the back wall of your cave, you’re rabbit hole of despair. I am challenged by the rattle of my Jack-in-the-box emotional receptacles everyday. They tickle my emotion’s with a smile and a laugh. I am intimately connected to it. I refuse to let it define me and arrived at a point of acceptance.