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What does gratitude buy?

Updated: Jan 14, 2023

This is a departure from content..

The very idea gratitude can purchase anything is ludicrous. Yet, many of us connect gratitude to getting some gift of sorts, a sunny day, a raise in pay, for...anything, some pray and others wish upon a star for something they want or feel deserving.

A wise man would consider these words by James Allen. "The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom."

Those jewels come with age or being classified as an old soul by an intuitive.

So be wise in framing a moment of gratitude, not as a gift or a purchase but, as a habit of thoughtfulness. Through Healthy Attitude and Behavior Initiates Thoughtfulness... of gratitude, the presence of mind to calmly polish those jewels of gratitude into the success, influence and powerful intentions for good rather than to get, to give without expectation, to pay forward with gratitude for the presence of a calmed mind. So, if gratitude buys anything it is the presence of mind to be of good habit.

Blessings in health.


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